I’d like to finish off our ‘mindset’ month and begin our ‘conquering self-doubt’ month by giving some tips on how to keep a positive mindset.
- Start the day in a positive way.
Your morning is so important to how the rest of your day flows. Bad morning? Bad day. I like to start as I mean to go on. I am an early riser and in the morning, make sure I do things I enjoy rather than crawling out of bed before going to work. I get out of bed, generally do some form of exercise and meditation. I then make myself a nice cup of tea to enjoy while having a bubble bath and have 20 minutes reading. It feels so amazing then arriving at my boutique knowing I’ve had a great morning and already been so productive! It can only get better from there right?
- Focus on the good things, however small.
If we focus on the negative, we’re going to feel negative. So, what’s good? Is the sun shining? Have you had a nice text from a friend? Seeing a loved one for coffee? Concentrate on what is good in your life, it has a massive impact on how you feel over all.
- Find humour in bad situations.
I’m quite lucky that I have a dry sense of humour, my family also has a dark sense of humour which helps me get through some tough times. My car got hit in the snow last week and rolled down a hill. After checking everyone was okay (and the practicalities of insurance!) I didn’t let what had happened bother me, I simply saw the funny side of this tiny Fiat 500 rolling down a hill and stopping, as if by magic, all on its own, before anybody got hurt.
- Turn failures into lessons.
Last year I had a few ‘failures’ with some work I did with some other people. Boy did I learn a huge lesson on being more thoughtful about who I work with and what projects I take on. But I don’t whine about them being failures, what’s the point? I can safely say, I have never failed at anything. Even my first driving test – I just learned how to drive better!
- Transform negative self-talk into positive self-talk.
I think this goes hand in hand with the above; You might think I’m so bad at this or I shouldn’t have tried that. But these thoughts turn into internalized feelings and might cement your conceptions of yourself. When you catch yourself doing this, stop and replace those negative messages with positive ones. For example, I’m so bad at this becomes Once I get more practice, I’ll be way better at this. I shouldn’t have tried becomes That didn’t work out as planned—maybe next time.
- Focus on the present.
Be in the present moment. Focus on this one, individual moment. In most situations, you’ll find it’s not as bad as you imagine it to be. Most sources of negativity stem from a memory of a recent event or the exaggerated imagination of a potential future event. Stay in the present moment and appreciate what’s around you right now. This is taught in methods of meditation.
- Find positive friends, mentors and co-workers.
Your vibe attracts your tribe and your tribe attracts your vibe!! Hanging around with negative ninnies? STOP. They’re only bringing you down and you can’t change their mindset, only yours! Your positive friends and mentor’s words will sink in and affect your own line of thinking, which then affects your words and similarly contributes to the group. Finding positive people to fill up your life can be difficult, but you need to eliminate the negativity in your life before it consumes you. But that’s what The Diamond Initiative is here for!
This may sound like a lot to change in your life, but one step at a time? Easy peasy. Start with your perfect morning. You won’t regret it!